“Do these people actually expect me to view their profile”?

This is something I remember saying to myself all the time, spending hours on hours scrolling through potential matches on Tinder and Plenty of Fish.

Two years of research

I spent two exciting years in the dating game—and they flew by. I’d been in a long-term relationship for five years, but it ended abruptly and left me unsure of where my future lay.

It’d been years since I’d done the whole dating thing, and I was a bit nervous about what to expect. I wasn’t even sure if I wanted to meet someone with the intention of settling into a relationship or just meet lots of interesting new people. So I decided to take a stab at online dating.

I now refer to my dating past as “research” because I was trying to find out what I liked and disliked, and what I did or didn’t want in a relationship. Online dating definitely helped me with that!

Catch the eye of potential partners

When I first entered the world of online dating, these thoughts became all too familiar:

  • How old are your photos?
  • Torso on show? Really?
  • How many filters do you need?!
  • You look nothing like your photos!

Now, I’m not one to judge a book by its cover, but it’s hard not to when the first thing you see is a photo. Especially if it’s a bit of a questionable one.

When you have only a split second to convince someone to learn more about you, you need to make sure that your profile photos (and especially your primary photo) say the right things and make a great first impression.

Your photos should be:

  • eye catching
  • bright
  • bold
  • clear
  • a recent, true likeness of you

Your photos should not be:

  • full of your mates
  • taken in the bathroom mirror
  • dull
  • distorted or low quality
  • heavily edited or years old

Your photos should have some personality and capture your true self. Think about what you want to see from someone else’s pics and make sure your own profile delivers! If you invest in some professional photos, you’ll start getting more dates with the right people

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